11 Responses to Don’t try to fix her. Just listen!

  1. Kenneth Ross May 25, 2013 at 5:13 am #

    Already thinking of ways to use this as an illustration. There is a gospel point in there. Sometimes folks would rather nurse their hurts, and talk about their problems, than actually confront the sin that is the source of their troubles, confess it, and in repentance seek by the Holy Spirit’s strength to kill it. I guess most of us can think of examples , in our own lives, and in others we know.

    • Melissa May 25, 2013 at 5:23 pm #

      Kenneth, I think you hit the nail on the head!! LOL 😉 I was thinking the same thing while watching this. While I agree that many times we women just want to be heard, I think many times also we are just complaining in order to skirt around the real issue that we need to confront. I am guilty of this myself, and believe it or not it was my husband who lovingly brought this to my attention LOL 🙂 I think men are portrayed too often (like this guy here) as being insensitive jerks that only want to satisfy their own egos by “fixing” things, when in reality they just might be right. GASP!!

  2. Don Johnson May 25, 2013 at 8:40 am #

    This was one of the hardest lessons for me to learn as a husband, that sometimes my wife just wanted to be heard and so have a shared connection between us and not “have her problem fixed” (as I saw things, which, after all, could be incorrect).

    • Mary Gray Moser May 25, 2013 at 2:42 pm #

      Good for you, Don. But don’t forget that sometimes she may want you to fix it. .

    • Kenneth Ross May 25, 2013 at 4:06 pm #

      I know, Don, most of us as men are born fixers, but not great listeners. I was married for 5 years before commencing pastoral ministry, and listening to my wife was essential training for listening to the congregation. I agree this is the point they are seeking to convey in the video – but as I watched it, I couldn’t help also seeing a gospel angle – our tendency to glory in our problems without addressing the core issue.

  3. Lynn Burgess May 26, 2013 at 11:19 am #

    These responses are so very funny because they come from two completely different angles. I would say the comment about her snagged sweaters, the hindered kiss, and the closing, “it’s not about the nail,” are the give-away. This one is about wanting to talk about the problem and not address the problem (which may be an issue of salvation or of sanctification). But, for the guys, and really for all of us, there is a need to listen and even to really listen before we lovingly confront a spiritual need.

    “Him we proclaim, warning (i.e. confronting, counseling) everyone and teaching everyone with all wisdom, that we may present everyone mature in Christ” (Col. 1:28).

  4. Debbie Kaufman May 26, 2013 at 12:23 pm #

    Denny: That is absolutely hilarious. I am still laughing after the video is over. Oh my.

  5. Dave Moore May 27, 2013 at 5:18 pm #

    Funny, but not very good. Assumes all problems are as irrational as allowing a nail in the noggin. Many problems our wives have are legit not irrationally destructive.

  6. Andy Moffat May 27, 2013 at 5:37 pm #


  7. Janice Fitzgerald May 31, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

    These comments are much too heavy for me. Lets not over analyze! It is just really funny!


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