The following excerpt is from an article that appeared today in the “Moms” section of The Today Show website:
Imagine you’re at the train station, taking your kids into the city to see the Lion King. A man steps off the 6:16 from Grand Central, and two toddlers run up to him shouting, “Daddy! Daddy!” He gives out two hugs and about a thousand kisses and tells them how much he missed them while he was at work. You’ve witnessed scenes like this many times, but as always, your heart melts. Then the dad stands up, walks a little further down the platform and kisses… another man…
This is the story of my life. I am a gay dad, and I confuse children.
The author goes on to suggest some ways that parents might teach their children about gay families—how to speak in ways that normalize gay parenting instead of stigmatizing it. The advice that he gives is just awful, and you can read the rest of it here.
I didn’t get angry when I read this story. I wasn’t mad. More than anything, I was just grieved. Stories like this one are but a sign of the times. We are a people of unclean lips and we live among a people of unclean lips (Isaiah 6:5). It is normal today to call evil good and good evil (Isaiah 5:20), and so hardly anyone bats an eye anymore when articles like this one appear. Gay parenting comes to us today as “the new normal” with hardly any thought about the massive social revolution it inaugurates with all of its deleterious effects on children and families. If you love your neighbor, then you will love the common good. And this is not good. So we grieve.
There is much more that we might want to say in response to an article like this, but I will just add a few more reflections. As homosexuality and gay marriage have been normalized in our culture, so also has the phenomenon of gay parenting and gay adoption. Gay marriage proponents often argue against traditional marriage by asking, “How does gay marriage hurt heterosexual marriage?” The assumption behind this question is the idea that the definition of marriage is a private matter. This is not true.
There will be a public definition of marriage and it will have public implications. For Christian parents, those implications will begin with how we explain to our children what it means that some of their classmates and friends have two “daddies” or two “mommies.” We will certainly teach our children to love their neighbors, but we will also eventually have to explain to them that some of our neighbors don’t know God and live in sin. In other words, we must address in no uncertain terms the moral dissolution going on around us, and we must define it in biblical terms. This means that we are all going to have to say things to our children that others will consider to be hate speech. But for us it will merely be doing what God has commanded us to do.
18 You shall therefore impress these words of mine on your heart and on your soul; and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. 19 And you shall teach them to your sons, talking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you rise up. 20 And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, 21 so that your days and the days of your sons may be multiplied on the land which the LORD swore to your fathers to give them, as long as the heavens remain above the earth.