Bruce Jenner, the Transgender Revolution, and Loving Our Neighbors

The reports have moved from the tabloids into the “paper of record”—Bruce Jenner has embraced a transgender identity and is “transitioning” from male to female. The New York Times has a report today as well as a glowing commendation from Nicholas Kristof celebrating Jenner’s “courage.” Kristof writes:

At first, there were snickers, but, lately, the tone has been respectful. And news reports say Jenner is planning to chronicle the transition in a program for E! television channel and in an interview with Diane Sawyer for ABC News. All this, and comments by family members, suggest that Jenner is willing to be a role model and help educate the world on transgender issues…

Good for Jenner. All this is probably harder than the training for the Olympic decathlon — but more important, because transgender people face hate crimes and discrimination at an astonishing rate.

And so Kristof goes on to explain that transgender people are sometimes murdered because of their gender identity. The only way to stop the violence and hate against transgender people is to “educate” the public to be more accepting of transgender identities. Those who have moral reservations about the transgender revolution are a part of the problem of hatred against transgender persons.

If this script sounds familiar, that’s because it is. It’s the exact same strategy that activists have taken to mainstream homosexuality and to marginalize and demagogue all opposition. It attempts to portray all dissent to the sexual revolution as rooted in bigotry and animus. The strategy has worked really well for the “LGB,” and now it is being employed again for the “T.”

How should Christians respond to this latest phase of the LGBT revolution? The short answer is that we have to speak the truth in love (Eph. 4:15). Contrary to editorialists at The New York Times, we must insist that truth and love are not enemies but friends (Ps. 85:10). That means that we can dissent from the sexual revolution and love our transgender neighbors. No matter how much we may be slandered otherwise, we can do both (1 Pet. 2:12). Indeed we must do both (Matt. 22:39; John 13:34-35; Rom. 13:9; Gal. 5:14).

But what does loving our transgender neighbor look like in practical terms? That is the pressing question before us, and I thought it might be worth revisiting something I’ve written about before in this space. I’m sure there is more that might be added to such a list, but here are ten ways to love your transgender neighbor.

1. Be a friend. And by that, I mean be a real friend. Don’t make changing them a condition of your friendship.

“A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity” (Prov. 17:17).

2. Listen. Your transgender neighbor may have a story to tell, and you need to hear it. Not just for their sake, but for yours. There’s nothing better to wipe away erroneous caricatures than to listen to someone else’s story. Listening doesn’t equal submitting to an unbiblical ideology. It just means that you care and are open to learning.

“He who gives an answer before he hears, It is folly and shame to him” (Prov. 18:13).

3. Feel compassion. Understand that your transgender neighbor often feels distress over the conflict between their biological sex and their perceived gender identity. There can be a real sense of alienation that they feel from their own body. For some, the experience is quite agonizing. How would you feel if you had to walk a mile in their shoes? We all experience some measure of brokenness due to the fallenness of creation. So we too know what it means to groan (Rom. 8:23). Of all people, that ought to summon forth a compassionate response to our transgender neighbors.

“And so, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience” (Col. 3:12).

4. Share the gospel. The gospel is good news for sinners. It is the true story about a Creator God who loves sinners and who has made a way to reconcile them to Himself through the death and resurrection of His own Son. It’s the best news in the world. How could we possibly withhold that from any friend?

“Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ, and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation” (2 Cor. 5:18-19).

5. Speak the truth. You don’t have to be mean, angry, or haughty to speak truthfully. You can do it in a way that is winsome and that shows concern but does not disdain. In short, you can speak the truth in love. You can communicate that embracing a transgender identity is deeply at odds with God’s purposes and plans for them. You can tell them that the path to flourishing and wholeness is not one that divides their body from their identity.

“But speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him, who is the head, even Christ” (Eph. 4:15).

6. Be candid about differences. This is a necessary corollary to speaking the truth. A true friend will always find a way to communicate differences that matter. A friendship that glosses over such things can degenerate into flattery and superficiality. Sometimes the truth about God’s word brings a confrontation no matter how nice and compassionate you try to be in delivering it. But don’t let the fear of confrontation keep you from being candid.

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy” (Prov. 27:6).

7. Oppose bullying. Christians must lead the charge to condemn acts of abuse or bullying committed against our transgender neighbors. Take your stand with the oppressed. Speak up for them. Do it even if it costs you social capital or risks subjecting yourself to the same bullying. This is the kind of sacrificial love that bears witness to the way Christ has loved us.

“My son, if sinners entice you, Do not consent. If they say, ‘Come with us, Let us lie in wait for blood, Let us ambush the innocent without cause…” My son, do not walk in the way with them. Keep your feet from their path, For their feet run to evil, And they hasten to shed blood” (Prov. 1:10-16).

8. Receive your brothers and sisters. We should befriend our transgender neighbors even if they are not Christians. But some of them will repent of their sin, trust Christ, and become Christians. When they do, be prepared to rejoice and to receive them with open arms as brothers and sisters in Christ. Make sure they know that they are received as full members into the body of Christ.

“For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body, whether Jews or Greeks, whether slaves or free, and we were all made to drink of one Spirit” (1 Cor. 12:13).

9. Strengthen your brothers and sisters. Some new converts may experience a complete deliverance from the alienation that they feel from their own bodies. Others may continue to struggle. Be prepared to walk with them and to strengthen them for what may be a very difficult obedience. The mark of true discipleship for them will be the willingness to turn from sin and engage the struggle. God has given them everything that they need for life and godliness (2 Pet. 1:3), and a part of God’s provision for them is your friendship and encouragement.

“But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called ‘Today,’ lest any one of you be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin” (Heb. 3:13)

10. Pray. The Devil wants to destroy. Jesus wants to save (John 10:10). Pray for your transgender neighbor that Jesus might have his way. In his own prayer for wayward Peter, Jesus modelled how we might intercede:

“Behold, Satan has demanded permission to sift you like wheat; but I have prayed for you, that your faith may not fail” (Luke 22:31-32).

21 Responses to Bruce Jenner, the Transgender Revolution, and Loving Our Neighbors

  1. James Stanton February 5, 2015 at 4:41 pm #

    I think the war on sexual revolutionaries should probably start with the heterosexuals. A far higher percentage of the population are living active lifestyles of adultery, premarital sex, polyamory so on. I have yet to meet a transgendered person (that I know of) but have met plenty of the above.

    • Ian Shaw February 5, 2015 at 5:09 pm #

      Agreed and it’s a huge problem, especially within the Christian community. From a societal standpoint at large (secular), adultery is still frowned upon, premarital sex (either direction), polyandry still frowned upon. Society hasn’t tried to normalize those kinds of sexual sins, as they have been pushing to normalize sexual sins regarding LGBT.

      • Bob Wilson February 5, 2015 at 6:41 pm #

        Adultery is still generally disapproved due to the betrayal involved. But premarital sex? That is beyond merely accepted; it’s assumed and expected.

        • doctorriverwho February 18, 2015 at 5:51 pm #

          I’m not disagreeing with you, but that doesn’t make it ok. And for so many to give in to it is saddening. (I’m not saying you have said this). But the statements above I find to be true. No one talks about adultery, premarital sex, polyamory, those sins, while still sins, are not as “in your face” as others like transgenderism, or homosexuality. People don’t talk about the affair they had the night before, and outside of high school don’t talk about all the sexual partners they’ve gone through before finding “the one”, but people do openly talk about accepting homosexuality and transgenderism. And what’s more disturbing is if these two “states of being” are not accepted then those who don’t accept them are labeled as “…phobic” or “haters” or something equally ridiculous. Sin is sin is sin. It doesn’t matter how it’s dressed up. Sin still hurts someone, sin will always hurt someone. It does not affect only the person sinning. And the biggest push America has right now is this LGBT “movement” where they want acceptance, not tolerance, but acceptance. If these other sins mentioned here (adultery, premarital sex, polyamory, etc) were as widely broadcast as homosexuality and transgenderism, I wonder if the population that embraces them would also be looking for wide acceptance of them, or if there would be any shame tacked on to their actions…?

      • James Stanton February 6, 2015 at 1:42 pm #

        I think non-monagamy, or whatever you call moving from sexual relation to sexual relationship, is fairly normalized. The broad definition of adultery, not strictly infidelity, is fairly normalized. I think the problem is that the outrage peddlers are more focused on LGBT who are far easier to demonize than people who might sit in your own pews.

      • Carolyn Bryant Schaub February 18, 2015 at 8:38 am #

        Have you lived under a rock? Hetersexual marital sins are not only encouraged but applauded. The droves of married Christian women watching “Fifty Shades ” and bragging about it speaks volumes at the state of Herero Christian marriage.

        • doctorriverwho February 18, 2015 at 5:56 pm #

          Personally, I don’t know any Christian women who have involved themselves in 50 Shades of Grey, but I do feel sad for all the other women in the world who believe that that is something to “now strive for” (a comment I’ve seen far too often with other women). A male coworker of mine (I was in the military) kept trying to push me to read it. I continued to refuse for a number of reasons. 1. I’m a married woman and believe that reading that would be disrespectful to my husband and to myself, but mostly to my husband. 2. The level and style of writing that I heard that is in the book is abhorrent. 3. That kind of story line has never appealed to me. When I shared my coworkers statements with my husband he was angered, but also about 2000 miles away and couldn’t do much. I had a long talking to with my coworker about self-respect, emotional instability, and real relationships. He backed off with the book after that.

    • Carolyn Bryant Schaub February 18, 2015 at 8:39 am #

      Yes! And Thank You

  2. Dal Bailey February 5, 2015 at 7:51 pm #

    Well, thank you Denny. I agree we should converse with love to them and testify in a loving way. But we still cannot accept their actions as “Normal”

  3. Sarah Smith February 9, 2015 at 8:34 am #

    As Christians, how deeply do we love? Do we accept their(in my mind) delusion, calling him a her, or do we call him a him (in spite of what ever cosmetic procedure he has had)because that is how he was created? Are we faithful to the illusion created, or the truth of creation?

    Put more simply, do we call Bill Betty, and do we recalibrate our mind to think of Bill as Betty, out of love?

    • Lisa Miller February 18, 2015 at 11:20 am #

      Yes, this is a difficult question that nobody seems to talk about. I’ve had a transgender sibling for 25 years. It is a secret to most people and is so hard for me to call my sister a man, when I grew up with “him” as my sister. But most people only know her as a male. It’s awkward.

  4. David griffin February 18, 2015 at 8:46 am #

    I appreciate the idea behind your article but disagree with it for the most part. It sounds like more “go along to get along” bs.
    This whole thing is a mental disorder. It can be nothing else.
    You don’t have to be cruel and you can still love God’s creation, but let’s be realistic, pretend the person is telling you they are a dinosaur born in a human’s bidy. What are you going to say to them?

    • David griffin February 18, 2015 at 8:47 am #

      Body. Sorry

  5. Lorri Van Dyke February 18, 2015 at 10:50 am #

    Lorri Van Dyke

    But stop and think about this, they are getting more respect and the Jewish people are getting spit upon.

  6. Lisa Miller February 18, 2015 at 11:16 am #

    Practical question: When they change their gender, do we call them “he” or “she” when referring to them? The original gender or the new one? This causes great confusion and I’ve never heard it addressed. This is especially difficult when the gender they were born with is a “secret” to most people.

  7. Chuck Brooks February 19, 2015 at 11:32 am #

    Burk’s article is encouraging, but as a pastor, I find that some of the exhortations are not practical and one may not be biblical. Accepting one as a brother or sister who hasn’t truly or thoroughly repented of, and turned away from their sin does not line up with Scripture. If a transgender truly repents, they should return to the identity they were created (by God) to be. I know that some will say this is “easier said than done” but repentance is not done in phases or stages as far as I can tell from Scripture. Having transgenders in a local church situation, who say they are Christians yet continue to masquerade as the opposite gender, will cause mass confusion in the minds and hearts of adults, teens and children. Our God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33).

  8. Kay Savvy June 8, 2015 at 7:22 am #

    I do not understand why some Christians feel this is a sin. I would like to hear reasoned arguments.

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