Why a lustful man doesn’t want a woman

I spoke at a conference this past weekend dealing with the issue of pornography. During one session, a friend highlighted apropos words from C. S. Lewis’ classic The Four Loves. In the following lines, Lewis explains why a lustful man ironically has no use for a real woman. He writes:

We use a most unfortunate idiom when we say, of a lustful man prowling the streets, that he “wants a woman.” Strictly speaking, a woman is just what he does not want. He wants a pleasure for which a woman happens to be the necessary piece of apparatus. How much he cares about the woman as such may be gauged by his attitude to her five minutes after fruition (one does not keep the carton after one has smoked the cigarettes).

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5 Responses to Why a lustful man doesn’t want a woman

  1. Ian Shaw July 21, 2014 at 4:31 pm #

    Just when I think I could remember most of his writings, he surprises me with something I couldn’t recall. Thanks for this Denny.

  2. Li He July 22, 2014 at 8:51 am #

    cannot see the rest of the article. the link takes me to amazon.

  3. buddyglass July 22, 2014 at 5:33 pm #

    I appreciate the sentiment, but I’m not sure I agree with Lewis here. If a lustful man only wanted pleasure then he could pleasure himself. But for some lustful men that isn’t enough. Only an actual woman will satisfy their desires, even though the physical sensation is basically the same.

    To me, that suggests the lustful man craves something more than just physical release.

    • Paul Reed July 26, 2014 at 3:46 pm #

      I agree, buddyglass. I was thinking the same thing.


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